What is this

The thing is, other people seem to have things to say. I mostly just like to arrange the words on paper.

And what’s worse is that now I’m aware there’s a formula, or recipe, or something, only I don’t know what it is and I didn’t know I needed one, and now I don’t know how to do the thing that I thought I was already doing, and have since confusedly stopped, and don’t quite know how to start again.

Is there definitely a right way to do it? Am I definitely doing it wrong? What if doing it wrong was my object? Why do I even need to have an object?

Lydia says that you can’t just put something on paper and get people to decide what it means, because that’s lazy. You’re supposed to let people know what things mean.

But what about when singers garble words so that they sound like they could be several words at once? What if I’m just curious? Maybe I want to write in conversations, rather than in bulletins. But then, I suppose that only works if someone responds.

I’ve probably wandered somewhere I don’t quite belong.

I’m staying, though. This is sort of fun.

Baby, Bathwater

This is something I repeat to myself on occasions when I feel like packing it all in.

When the perfectionist in me suddenly decides that not only is everything unsalvageable and imperfect, but that we must immediately destroy it all (in case we ever get any bright ideas about trying again).

The perfectionist in me isn’t big on logic.

And when it kicks off like this, I calmly murmur “baby, bathwater” as I coax it down from the high place it’s climbed to, persuade it to drop the flamethrower, and gently lead it back into its pen.

I remind myself, in other words, not to throw away the good, the necessary, because of the inevitable (and sometimes, also necessary) bad. Continue reading

Looking Back

It is not a kind thing we do to ourselves – the pretense, or maybe sometimes sincere belief, that what has gone was better than what we have here, somehow.

The psychic distance we glean from the passage of time, and our own forgetting, lets us access the yesterdays without the nuance. Sometimes this is a mercy.

When I was younger, I was happier.
A year ago, things made sense.
I had it so good then, I didn’t even know.

These sorts of thoughts are almost cruel, in the haven they promise, hazy times-gone-by, keenly sweet like a childhood film that touched us; offering solace in a past that isn’t a place, in a thing that isn’t real.

Change is awful.  Continue reading

On being ready

Doing things has never been my forte.

Take this blog, for instance – I made it four years ago, but only started posting a few weeks ago!

As a perfectionist of the ‘crippled-by-what-ifs’ variety, I rarely attempt anything new voluntarily, unless I have some small guarantee that I will actually be able to do it. Reasonably well. On the first attempt. As you may have guessed, this precludes a great many new experiences!

This being said, I am heading overseas in April. By myself. Continue reading